Please read the following with open mind and understanding. We are human beings.
I agree with Josephine’s article. Confessions of a young anti-feminist-Is the pursuit for gender equality sucking life out of relationships? Instead of harnessing the different qualities of men and women to energise us, we are striving to make men and women equal.
My opinion is:
Creation of men and women has some purpose. Purpose to keep this world running “with quality”. Otherwise God can create one gender doing all the jobs. Giving birth, cook and clean etc. But we men and women have separate sets of role to play. So we ourselves can live with bit ease and with peace. And also continue human civilisation beautifully. Not Just quantity wise.
For me Mother is an Architect of Society! She not only gives birth to a child but she is the first mentor for a child she raises her children so they can be a good citizen for their nation and and caring human beings. When this is missing….. you can see the chaos in the society. people are missing the sensitive part and living selfish lives. Families are breaking down, Many people don’t want to marry and have children in order to enjoy their own lives. Without even realising that if they were not born, how on earth they could have enjoyed this world? Or, are they going to freeze the sperm and egg or have separate set of slave/paid women just for giving birth. What is missing from their mind? or from their heart?
People are cheating each other. Husbands leaving wife with children with no mercy. No care for children ‘s future. No care for the country. Just ripping each other off. Money, money and power. It is the mother who develops and passes the sense of being responsible and caring and care for others life too. She teaches with practicle examples in childs day today life, and answers child’s query e.g not to lie, dont do this, the reason behind everything. And all these things needs time and patience. But today she is a working mother. Her child is in the day care, sick, with lots of questions, in need of a mother’s hug and want attention. But will not get it. By the time mother brings the child home, she herself too tired to answer or even look at him or play with him for a while. And there begins the hardning of a child’s heart….
And for doing her important job of a first mentor, she needs a husband’s support. Husband, a father, a role model for his children. Man can face the outside challenges of this world. He is made tough. He faces the traffic congestion, deals with the boss, or deals with his business, deals with financial hardship. And with these actions he teaches his son to care for the family and be selfless, share and care for the family.
So both men and women have important role to play in human civilisation and then they have their rights respectively. Great power or right comes with great responsibility. In Islam Mother’s right over father is three times higher. Because she bears the pain of carrying child in her womb for nine or more months, with so much of discomfort in walking, sitting, sleeping for whole nine months. Gives birth with so much of pain and immediately after giving birth she smiles with joy, love and affection after seeing her baby. Feeds her child with pain of contractions. Bleeds for forty days or so. Looks after the child and go through so many changes in hormones and even loosing her body shape or birth marks. Some of them can loose their husbands as she cant satisfy them sexually like before. but mother keeps going with her responsibility.
But when it comes to husband and wife, in Islam, husband has degree respect over the wife as he with hardship, protects his wife, provides for her and cares for her so she can do her very important job that is “quality control human civilisation”.
Equal right is creating big tensions. When family separates and kids are taken away from the mother, without realising that mother is very important for a child. By taking away this role of a mother, men and women are not doing their assign jobs properly and creating chaos in their respective country and more financial and social and psychological problems for their country. And on top, making our men selfish and irresponsible. And because of feminism men are also taking good advantage of it and living selfish and carefree life and using women for their pleasure.
Confessions of a young anti-feminist
29 Nov 06:00am
Is the pursuit for gender equality sucking life out of relationships?
Feminism has got its down sides.
Instead of harnessing the different qualities of men and women to energise us, we are striving to make men and women equal.
More women are joining the battle for the CEO’s chair and pursuing dominance in their homes and communities. But in the process they’re becoming more like men. And men are becoming… well, less like men.
Renowned Australian neurosurgeon Charlie Teo believes men and women have different roles “set not only by society but set by physiology”.
“The current trend is for dads to be more hands on. But for all we know it may be proven in a hundred years time that that may be a negative thing for the upbringing of children,” he said recently on Seven’s Sunday Night program.
“They’re there to be protective. A man has to have a good job; he has to do well at school so he can get a good job and support his family. A woman has to be loving and caring,” he said.
As a 29-year-old single woman, many of my peers don’t appreciate my traditionalist views. I’d rather dodge a flying pair of high heels thrown at me in anger than pin a man under a pair of mine.
Feminism has achieved victories for women, but could it be at the expense of femininity, chivalry and attributes of the opposite sex that instinctively attract us to each other?
In his book The Way of the Superior Man, David Deida describes attraction between the masculine and the feminine as “sexual polarity”, referring to varying degrees of strength and vulnerability.
“This force of attraction is the dynamism that often disappears in modern relationships. If you want real passion, you need a ravisher and a ravishee. Otherwise you just have two buddies who decide to rub genitals in bed,” he writes.
Earlier this month, TopGear presenter James May branded the new generation of men as “useless morons” who struggle to master the basic skills once defined as masculine roles.
“The decline of practical skills, some of them very day-to-day, among a generation of British men is very worrying. They can’t put up a shelf, wire a plug, countersink a screw…” he said.
For thousands of years men were providers and protectors and women nurturers. Evolution provided each with the physical and emotional assets to do these jobs well.
Well into the last century the husband provided his family with a home and food and this sole responsibility gave him a sense of power and purpose. And women didn’t feel pressure to justify their existence with a career. They were proud home makers and mothers.
Now, two thirds of Australian families with dependent children have two incomes. Women are more independent, and consequently they are less dependent on men.
However, mothers now feel more pressure to stay in the workforce either to financially keep up with the surge in double income families or to avoid the negative stigma of being a housewife.
Is it becoming unacceptable in our society for women to rely on men and take pride in abilities defined as gender roles?
Women are also suppressing traditional feminine characteristics like elegance and fragility to take on high power careers and step into male dominated roles.
The Annual Child Care and Workforce Participation Survey found 33 per cent of women who returned to work did so for independence, and 27 per cent for career progression.
However, a British survey of 2000 men revealed one-third of men would prefer to be the sole breadwinning traditional father while another quarter would like to be the main breadwinner with their spouse working only part-time.
Instead, men are sporting aprons, doing their own ironing and pushing trolleys down supermarket aisles – roles that don’t exactly exude manliness.
The survey also found more than half of respondents thought 21st century society was turning men into “waxed and coiffed metrosexuals”, who had to live according to women’s rules.
How does that impact a man’s morale?
My friend Dave told me his wife speaks to him in the same tone as she speaks to their children – and the dog.
“Kids, turn off the TV, Buster outside, Dave, the dishes aren’t going to clean themselves.” Dave feels like he’s surrendered his balls.
When a man is stripped of his sense of purpose, it’s more difficult to satisfy that instinctive hunger for power and purpose. Could this be part of the reason why one in eight Australian men experiences severe depression in their lifetime?
Deida describes it as a “weakened impotent existence”.
“Without a conscious life purpose, a man is totally lost, drifting, adapting to events rather than creating events,” he said.
“The mission is the priority of the masculine, whereas the search for love is the priority of the feminine.”
It seems marriage is becoming less about being dependent on each other and more about living independent lives. But is it making couples happier?
Now, 40 percent of Australian marriages are predicted to end in divorce.
The Relationships Australia Relationships Indicators Survey 2008 revealed stress, work pressures and lack of time to spend with their partner were the top three factors that negatively impacted upon partner relationships.
According to the Australian Bureau of Statistics (2007), 67 per cent of mothers felt pressed for time in families where both parents were working, compared with just 12 per cent in families where one parent was employed.
I don’t think that women should surrender their careers all together. But if we allow men to reclaim some power, we women could do more to embrace our femininity.
Would we be happier if more of us accept that men and women are not equal?
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